Everyone has a choice, and choices have consequences.
We cannot normalise not having a choice because it simply is not true.
One of my favourite spiritual teachers of all time was Carolyn Myss. One of the big lessons she taught me was that every single thing we do is a choice, and every choice we make, has consequences. For example, the amount of time we give ourselves when we set our alarm at night is a choice that can affect us for the whole of the following day. Do we give ourselves time to wake up and meditate? Eat fried eggs for breakfast before going leisurely out the door? Or do we set the alarm for fifteen minutes before we need to leave the house, resulting in us being on the run and tired all day?
When was the last time you really thought about the consequences of how much time you give yourself to get ready in the morning?
Most of our choices are subconscious - they’re the ones we make while on autopilot, while taking something for granted. We make subconscious choices when we are distracted, which is why there are so many exciting dramas out there to keep us in a constant state of distraction, and, therefore, on autopilot.
One of the keys to life is to get off of autopilot and make sure that each choice we make is a conscious one.
Here’s another thing about choices - we have a tendency to imprison ourselves to bad choices. We beat ourselves up over choices we should have made, without auditing our current circumstances. No - we made our bed, so we must lie in it. The conditioning kicks in - make the best of things, love the person you’re with, I do not want what I have not got. They try to convince us to ride the waves and to stick with things as they are, but we do not have to. We do, always, have a choice.
The three biggest choices we make in life are where we live, who we are with, and what we spend most our time doing, i.e what we do for money. Because it takes so much energy to make these particular choices, we become deeply invested in them. We dread the possibility that we might have made a mistake. However, we don't realise by accepting things as they are every day, we are actually choosing them every day. And if they’re not right for us, they are a bigger drain on us than we realise.
The reason why I’m writing this is because I keep hearing people say that they didn’t have a choice, or projecting onto others in sticky situations, saying that they didn’t have a choice either. Deciding someone else didn’t have a choice normalises it. We cannot normalise not having a choice because it simply is not true.
Heres the thing - This is a spiritual war. The choice you make boils down to what you value more - your soul, or comfort. Finding the energy to put your choice into action is secondary to making the choice itself. But sometimes people choose what is easy over what is true because they don’t realise the energy will come when it is needed.
Back to Caroline Myss. Caroline took Jung’s original work on Archetypal energies and brought them into a more practical application and for that I will be forever grateful. She says that we each have twelve archetypal energies that flow through us at certain times of our lives, influencing us - they act out through us, overpowering us at times. Once you recognise the behavioural pattern, (for example; narcissist, playboy, diva, princess, etc), it’s easier to manage - however, recognising it in ourselves is more difficult than recognising it in another person. It leads me to wonder how strong these energies are when choice-making is concerned - are we indeed the do-er of the deed, or is the deed the do-er of us? This is a higher level spiritual conversation, perhaps for another day. However, all of us, no matter who we are, have four archetypal energies that are the same. One of these is the prostitute, and no, it’s not about selling your body. It’s about selling your soul.
I often use the movie The Devil Wears Prada to illustrate the consequences of making choices while on autopilot and taking things for granted. Andrea (played by Anne Hathaway) is a kind and generous person who is offered a job as assistant to a top fashion executive. She is wow'ed by the glamor and in trying to keep her boss happy, she stops having time for her friends and her family and starts spending money on clothes that cost more than the rent of her apartment so she can keep up and fit into her new world. One day she is faced with a choice so large that it practically smacks her in the face and wakes her up. She realised that she was making little choices time and time again that lead her down a path, away from her friends and towards a person who was cold, heartless and soul-less. She was on track to become that person herself. In putting her job first and herself last, she also chose to place her family and her boyfriend last. Of course Andrea makes the right choice, quits her job and follows her hearts true desire in the end, takes the leap and, interestingly, we all come out of the movie still quite liking her, and perhaps loosing the essence of the importance of her story.
We don’t all get to work for big fashion executives, so for us, things might not be that obvious. The consequences of little choices that we make time and time again, that bring us down a soulless path, can lead some of us towards an actual car crash before we snap out of it.
Brett Weinstein said in a recent podcast with Kim Iverson that there are three types of people working in Big Pharma. Those that go along willingly with the agenda, those that are reluctant but have no choice, and those that are rebelling against it. Here, again, we have a normalisation of people having no choice. Do they really have no choice? Or is that part of the illusion? Are these people consciously choosing comfort and money over truth? Or do they feel they’ve gone so far down that path that they cannot come back?
The results of selling your soul are becoming harder to hide.
Do you value truth above comfort? Your soul above luxury, fame and fortune?
Why is nobody asking these questions?
I watched a YouTube with Charles Eisenstein yesterday, called The Next 5 Years. I recommend it, it was just beautiful. One of the things he shared was that he asked his students to give examples of things that went against science, things that nobody would believe were true. Story after story was told, and yet still, his students were reluctant to believe that there is a greater power out there that is on our side, even though they had the anecdotal evidence for it.
We are in an existential crises. But we are not alone. It’s time to take that leap of faith.
I have taken many leaps of faith. Years ago I was in a job that sucked the life out of me. Every day I came home and told my husband I couldn’t go into work the next day. He was at home, minding two babies, and I was working supporting the family. I knew I had a choice - yes, it was a very difficult choice, and it put my whole family at risk. I knew if I stayed I would become an empty shell of a thing, an angry person unhappy with life. I couldn’t do that to myself. Conditioning makes us believe that way of thinking is selfish. Yet the knock-on effect of my staying in that job would have been my bringing my empty, soul-less self home every evening, and my beautiful children, and my husband, would have had to live with a miserable person. I didn’t have children to do to them what was done to me. One night I told Ian point blank that I had to leave the job. We both needed to take a leap of faith. I didn’t know what we would do for a while but I could temp, something would come up, I had to have faith. With his support I gave my notice, and before I left the old job a new job came up, with better money. But it didn’t appear until I left my old job behind.
Take a leap of faith, make the space for new, and the new will appear.
Charles Eisenstein suggests we should be more confident and know that God is on our side. He asks what could we achieve if we lived that way? What if we knew that good choices would lead us closer to God? That the risks we take in the direction of light will pay off even better than our wildest dreams?
It puts a different spin on things, doesn’t it? Different to what Brett is saying - yet his actions show differently. Brett made the choice not to become swallowed up in a woke institution that has been captured, he did not want to prostitute himself to an agenda that creates victim mentality, where there is none. He had children to support too, yet he wouldn’t sell his soul for security and comfort. So why are those working in Big Pharma any different? And why can’t he see that?
Here’s another lesson from Caroline Myss - the universe is both personal and impersonal. She choose to take the vaccine. She ran retreats in Findhorn and you had to be vaccinated to go. I was very disappointed in her for that. At the personal level, why she took the vaccine was her choice and none of my business. At the impersonal level, by her taking it, she lost many of us. In energetic terms, she chose a frequency. I can only think that people at that frequency need her there. Perhaps that’s why she choose it? Perhaps her staying at that frequency was, for people like me, the equivalent of being kicked out of the nest. It happened with Doreen Virtue too, when she chose to become a born-again Christian. There was a lot of that in the past three and a half years.
The choices we make for our soul contracts are beyond the scope of what I’m writing about here, however spiritual choices are made before we incarnate and it may feel that we didn’t have a choice in the moment, because it was designed that way. It gets complicated when you bring in archetypal energies too. Everything happens for a reason, even when a dear spiritual teacher turns people away from her door because they didn’t put an untested chemical into their bodies, there is a reason. And I’m becoming more comfortable with the not knowing why. I don’t need to have all the answers, because God’s plan, if it is indeed a plan, is bigger than me. I take a leap of faith there, too.
Where am I going with this? Well, I think in essence, I want to say that when you feel you don’t have a choice, if you’re on autopilot you’re not really giving yourself an opportunity to choose. And if you made choices in your life that you regret, it’s time to stop regretting them. They happened because they happened. Focus on what you are doing right here, right now.
So stop. Know that you do have a choice in anything you do, as long as your eyes are open to it.
Know that if you don’t have the energy to change something, once you decide to change it, the energy can come back to you. You can also ask for help too, if it feels overwhelming.
Take your power back from whatever it is that’s draining you - because when you are powerless, you make bad choices.
Raise your energy, because when your energy is bad, you make bad choices.
Know that sometimes you can’t see the solution, but it’s because your energy is at a different frequency to that solution. The solution is there, and it’s a leap of faith. God is on our side. Let’s take that leap, together.
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